DON’T BRING DONUTS TO YOUR IEP MEETING
I’ve been there as a teacher - Mom walks into the IEP meeting with donuts and smile. She’s ready to work with the team. She gives her input on the IEP and we listen, but we don’t really take Mom seriously. It’s just refreshing to have a Mom who comes to the meeting with a smile wanting to work with the team and this Donut Mom has now set the tone that she wants to work with us, more than she wants to leads us.
I’ve been there as an advocate - Mom calls me for last minute phone coaching before she walks into her IEP meeting and lets me know she’s running late because she has to stop and get donuts. NO! I tell her… don’t be the Donut Mom! I let her know I understand that she doesn’t want to hurt feelings and wants to build a team environment while negotiating her Parent Input statement, but the Donut Mom never gets taken seriously...the school team KNOWS they can over rule the Donut Mom.
Think about it… this is the biggest project you’ve ever led in your life... your child’s education. You can’t roll your sleeves up and redesign the blueprints your team is presenting if you have sticky fingers and a sugar high.
Keep the focus of your next IEP meeting on your child, their strengths and designing the future.
Save the donuts for teacher appreciation day.